How happy are you in your relationship?


Couple having a serious argument on the couch at home in the living room

Let’s do a very quick assessment of the your happiness level with your mate.

Nothing ever stays the same. Relationships ebb and flow.

This assessment test is an immediate gut check of how things are going. It will put you in the position of knowing where you are at and where you want to get to in your relationship.

This test should be taken by any two people who are mates, partners in life or those who are seriously dating one another.

This test is not for individuals who do not currently have a partner, mate, or significant other.

The following are the instructions on how to take the test.


* The definition of happy that we’re using here is having a sense of confidence in or satisfaction with a specific person.

Couples Happiness Assessment Test

Step One

Ask yourself this very simple question: On a scale of 1 to 10, how happy am I in my current relationship? And rate your relationship according to the scale below. This is almost too simple, but hold on, you’ll see what happens.

Step Two

Then, ask your partner if he or she would please take one minute to read the test and evaluate how happy they are with their relationship with you. If they’re reluctant, tell them that you want the assessment so that you can improve the relationship. Have them read these instructions after the first time you do the assessment with one another.

Step Three

Then share your results with each other. Neither party should at any time use the results of this test to antagonize or inflame their partner in any way whatsoever. (It’s important that if your partner tells you something that is upsetting that you just let it go no matter how difficult that may be).

If your partner were to say; I still cannot trust you, in spite of the fact that you’ve done your best to rebuild trust it’s imperative that you just let it go. Don’t argue, disagree or show any signs of upset.

To repair a relationship and make it better, it’s necessary to just listen to what is said without rehashing the emotions and drama of the past. While this is easier said than done it’s essential if you want to start improving your relationship. And no smirks, rolling of eyes or looking disgusted – your facial contortions must NOT SHOW DISAPPROVAL – when doing this assessment.

Step Four

It is only fair that either partner may want a clarification of the other’s happiness assessment. This is fine as long as there is no intent to make the other partner wrong or upset.

When you get the clarification don’t disagree with it, no matter what your partner says. Just acknowledge the answer by saying thank you or I understand. Don’t say “thank you, but…” Just let it go. You asked for their happiness assessment and you got it.

OK, you wanted to know how you two are doing, and you’ve just found out. This is just the starting point for improving your existing scene. Your focus is going to be on improvement, not continuing the toilet-swirl. But you have to start by finding out how good or bad it really is, right?

So please just let it go if you didn’t like the assessment that you received. Your next steps will permit you to turn anything bad into something better.

And we at Ultimate Compatibility will be happy to help increase your  Compatibility. If you have the Will, we have the Way.

10 = Bingo, the jackpot. No complaints, nothing but praise and appreciation for what you’ve got. Amazing, I can’t believe it. He or she is perfect. This is the soul mate category. Very high compatibility and commitment levels.

9.6 to 9.9 = Wow it’s almost perfect. Almost soul mate category. Compatibility and commitment levels near the top.

8.7 to 9.5 = Very happy, no gripes or doubts, very compatible. Very strong commitment level.

8.0 to 8.6 = Actually pretty happy, aware of the improvements that are needed and moving in the direction of achieving them due to the commitment to the relationship.

7.5 to 7.9 = Things are pretty good (there’s quite a bit to be happy about). But there are points that need resolution. Some points are being worked on, however there is more to deal with. There are areas of incompatibility that need to be resolved. They may include, but are not limited to, a problem with communication, unaligned compatibility, or other optimum compatibility characteristics that are not being applied.

7.0 to 7.4 = It’s better than just okay, but there are difficulties that must be reviewed and handled. While some of these are being addressed there is much more to confront. There are several areas of incompatibility that are not being worked on. Raising the level of communication needs immediate attention so that things don’t drift downward.

6.6 to 6.9 = Things are just okay. There’s very little communication. Key lessons to Optimize Compatibility are needed to improve the relationship. Attending compatibility workshops are strongly suggested.

6.0 to 6.5 = You are in the dumpster. There’s a lot to handle, if we’re going to keep this relationship alive. The relationship is now at the point of being what’s called an at-risk relationship (reactive, illogical, low communication, not enough consideration and caring, way too rocky, critical and emotionally charged). It’s a borderline relationship with a tiny bit more plus than minus. Click Here for suggestions.

5.9 and below = A very marginal relationship. Definitely an at-risk relationship. Too much fighting, too many upsets, far too little communication or commitment to the marriage, and too little compatibility. The relationship is probably toxic, loaded with domination and attempts to make less of each other. There’s little to no light at the end of the tunnel. Something needs to be done sooner rather than later. Click Here for recommendations.